For a few weeks now, all of us here at CBSI have been placing our focus on the importance of ADVANCED & EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION. Not that we don’t do it all the time… it just happens to also be our TOPIC OF THE MONTH. Now, we’re not talking about just COMMUNICATION here… but ADVANCED & EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION. So, what’s the difference? You’re about to find out!
COMMUNICATION by itself is something all human beings are responsible for. It’s at the core of who we are and how we live. It’s LANGUAGE. It’s UNDERSTANDING. It’s CONNECTION! (Animals, vegetation and even machines do it as well.) And, as important as it is… much of the world’s attempts at any type of COMMUNICATION is dismal at best. In my opinion, it’s falling the way of the HORSE DRAWN BUGGY.
You would think with the advancement of TECHNOLOGY and all of the modern ways there are to presently SHARE INFORMATION, we would be accelerating as effective communicators — but studies are showing that that’s just not the case.
So, what’s happening here? POCKET COMPUTERS – FACEBOOK – SATELLITS – TWITTER???
First, let’s take a look at a few WORDS & DEFINITIONS surrounding communication. Take a minute to see if you can match the WORD with it’s DEFINITION below:
A- The imparting or exchanging of information or news. B- The successful conveying or sharing of ideas and feelings. C- Social contact. D- The sharing or exchanging of intimate thoughts and feelings, esp. when the exchange is on a mental or spiritual level. E- One. F- Transfer from one to another. G- Shared ownership.
Not so easy ? It shouldn’t be… as the definitions are so closely linked. So, what’s at the CORE of all of this? WHAT EXACTLY IS COMMUNICATION? The actual definition is, exchanging information. However, when you break it down to a NANO LEVEL, there is a point where actual COMMUNING occurs — and for that place to be completely effective, there is a moment between the GIVER and the RECEIVER where there is a definite experience of ONENESS! The sending and receiving of that info (in whatever form it is) will come together (one way or another) in a FORM OF ONE! Wild, huh? Watch this!
Look at the delicacy of anything becoming one. Not to get too deep here… let’s keep it in the sense of relative terms — TWO BIRDS IN FLIGHT. The birds are each flying… having their own personal experience. However, when the birds chose to FLY TOGETHER, they begin to experience a SYNERGISTIC moment where both of their individual flight patterns actually become ONE FLIGHT PATTERN! The two birds seem as ONE! They’re operating at PEAK COMMUNICATION LEVEL!
When TWO ACTORS come together in a scene (by placing their attention each on the other person) the two individual performances create ONE SCENE! And, this only happens (properly) through the ULTIMATE in ADVANCED & EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION! I see you, you see me, I see you seeing me seeing you! Or, FOLLOWING THE FOLLOWER! Get it?
Now, to help you understand this a bit better — in CONTRAST… when you take the complete OPPOSITE of the aforementioned…. (where no one is sharing anything) you get an ARGUMENT — or a FIGHT! Nobody giving up anything to anyone! Each person warring for their own right, their own stance, their own voice to be heard — I, me, mine! Hence, ZERO COMMUNICATION! Is it starting to make a bit more sense now?
Take in the below statements:
Our communication was sooooo amazing, we could READ EACH OTHERS MINDS!
Talking with him/her was like SKATING ON ICE!
We were FLOATING… in THE ZONE!
I could go on but I think you’re getting it now!
Continue to PAY ATTENTION to how COMMUNICATION WORKS — and DOESN’T WORK. ATTENTION creates AWARENESS!
Talking WITH You,